The Sweetness at the Bottom......

erospainter:

From Eros Life learning folder-on the subject of Men

Of course learning more about what feels good to the man you’re with will make everything better, but in general there are really only two ways you can go wrong when taking your lover’s penis or testicles in hand:

1. Being incredibly timid and hesitant in what you’re doing.
2. Using too much friction (e.g. your hand firmly sliding over the skin of the shaft of his penis for far too long when both surfaces of skin are completely dry): slippery good, chafing bad. [Note: for an interesting change of pace, try using silk gloves rather than lube…]

Beyond those two basic suggestions, it’s more a question of taking something that already feels good and making it feel even better. Here are some tips:

1. Always remember the big benefit of this kind of sex: your mouth is free for saying nice things. General sexy talk, perhaps a lurid description of what he gets to do with you after this, or perhaps nothing more than general patter about how good his hard dick feels in your hand, is always a good thing to try. It doesn’t have to be anything complex, and in fact it barely even needs to make sense: just hearing sexy words are often enough to add to the experience. If you have your face close to his penis when doing this it can add an extra charge, by adding implicit oral sex fantasies (if not the reality) to the mix.
2. The simplest position for your hand is simply to have your fingers and thumb make a “tunnel” shape that can travel up and down the shaft of the penis.
3. If you two are using this as the “main course” of sex rather than as a prelude to something else, then it would definitely be best to get hold of some kind of lubricant intended for sex, such as the omnipresent water-based lubes; this way you can do long, firm strokes as much as you like without anything feeling like it’s chafing. If that’s not possible, then use use shorter strokes such that the skin covering the penis slides with your hand rather than against it, and go a little faster (this can feel best closer to the head rather than the base of the penis).
4. Remember that you have two hands. For variety, you can try any of the following: using your other hand to cup and support his balls, using your other hand to firmly squeeze the base of the shaft of his penis while your other hand concentrates on the rest of the shaft of his penis, or using your other hand to stimulate the head of his penis (perhaps with your palm once the head of the penis is nice and slippery with a few drops of pre-ejaculate).
5. Good, long, repeated, confident strokes that start at the head of the penis and travel its entire length can feel wonderful, particularly after you’ve been doing something else for a while.
6. If you’re female, then you may want to take the opportunity to squeeze your partner’s penis between your breasts as part of this kind of sex: many men find that image very sexy.
7. Here’s a decadent tip: if you and your partner regularly use this kind of sex as the “main course” of sex (e.g. doing it until he ejaculates) then it can be a nice touch to have a warm, wet washcloth on hand for cleanup afterward. That can feel great.
8. If your partner is willing to either show you how he masturbates, or describe it to you, then you may have a good start in learning what feels best to him.